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There was a great article in the NY Times the other day about how some people are refusing to sign up for or are unsubscribing from Facebook, stating how “it’s a little unhealthy” and how they’re not “calling their friends anymore.” I wouldn’t go so far to say it’s unhealthy, but I do agree that Facebook has had two profound effects – making people much more social but at the same time much less personal.

As we all know, Facebook allows everyone to stay in touch with people they may not otherwise stay in touch with and wish people Happy Birthday when they otherwise would have never remembered. But it has also allowed users to think that someone typing “Happy Birthday Dude!” is a personal birthday greeting. I’m totally guilty of this but don’t feel too good about doing it (I bet I see way fewer “Happy Birthdays” on Facebook when June 9th rolls around.) Back in the day, giving the birthday guy or girl a physical birthday card, making a phone call or even sending an email was the way to go. Now it’s just typing a few letters in the upper right corner of a website.

Has Facebook changed the way you behave toward your friends and made you more social but less personal? Let me know what you think. Feel free to comment here, tweet me @mikewchan, or post to my Facebook page, but if you want to really talk about it, maybe you should call me.  ;)


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Harvey Specter
Posted at 10:28 am December 22, 2011
Julia
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On the sender end: I make it a point to not send Happy Bday messages on FB to my really good friends. But will definitely send a message to those that are my FB friends and I may not have their # or perhaps have not spoken to in awhile. At least I see it’s their bday and I acknowledge, right?

On the recipient end: I like getting FB Happy Bday messages from those that I don’t speak to often or at all. They are acknowledging and sending you wishes and who doesn’t like bday wishes? hahahah! So contradicting, huh?

I guess that’s what FB is all about. It’s what you make of it – whether it be for networking, keeping in touch, or stalking.

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